Confront The Elephant
Sometimes the things that scare us are the things we need to do the most.
It seems people love to invoke animal imagery when describing all sorts of situations. We often refer to the "elephant" or "800-pound" gorilla in the room, or label those we don't trust as "snakes." Instead of simply addressing our animal of choice, it's time to shed our insecurities and face it head on.
It's time to take action.
Take me for example. You may not believe me, but I can fall victim to some serious nerves when I speak in public. Yes -- even me. Speaking into my microphone at home is comfortable. There's no one watching me. I can't see the look on your face as you take in the message. Hell, I can even do it in my pajamas.
As I work hard to put myself into more and more "spotlight" situations, I'm acutely aware of this insecurity and it's something I take active steps towards correctly.
During the lead up to the now-postponed TEDx event in Williamsport, the organizers hosted two practice sessions with all the speakers. As we broke into groups, the inevitable moment came where our group facilitator asked us for a volunteer to go first.
You know this moment. This is when grown adults revert back to their middle-school insecurities and we all look around the room and avoid eye contact for fear of being volunteered to take that dreaded first position.
In these moments, before I can even process my own emotions or insecurities, I just blurt out that I'll go first. This situation was no different. I just shot my hand in the air, clearing the awkward silence.
That's me confronting my elephant.
An incredible thing happens when we're able to do this. When we can confront the elephant without buffering and making the cliché joke/reference to "addressing the elephant in the room," it becomes a total power move. You don't need to "address" it. By taking action on it, you project so much confidence that everyone else in that situation ends up bench-marking their own efforts against your gutsy action.
So, what's your elephant? I challenge you this week not to ignore, or even address it, but to confront it -- head on.
Confront the elephant. Own the moment. Step into your confidence.
When you do, I want to hear about it! Email me your stories at firstname.lastname@example.org.